Thursday, December 15, 2005

Hiatus dulu yaaaaaa.....

Dear All,

Menjalani hari2 terakhir bekerja di kantor ini kok rasanya semakin deg-degan yah?! ada rasa seneng, takut berdebar, nano-nano deh rasanya. Wondering apakah di kantor baru nanti akan ketemu dengan temen2 yg baik2, ramah2, helpful. Sedih berpisah dengan orang di kantor ini yg amat sangat baik, udah kayak keluarga kedua. All i can do is pray for the best! Amin.

Berhubung semakin mendekati hari2 terakhir di kantor ini (harus handover dan sebagainya) dan ada beberapa PR dirumah jadi asistancenya Papa Molly, soale beliau lagi sibuk di kantore dan ada tugas keluar kota, makanya Mama Santi harus menyingsingkan lengan baju untuk ngurusin komputer dan DVD yg lagi dibenerin gara2 kena petir :( juga hrs diservice kena petir juga :( trus apalagi yah (sambil garuk2 kepala) ooooh iyaaaaa AC juga harus diservice aduuuh harus telpon cana-cini niiih, sama persiapan buat ke Malang.

Oh yah teman-teman....Insya Allah aku dan Rakhel mo berangkat ke malang, tgl 21 desember sampeee tanggal berapa yah enake (haven't make decision yet ;). Rencananya mo naik kereta aja. Pingin punya pengalaman aja ama rakhel naik kereta (soale Rakhel blm pernah naik kereta) hehehehehhehehhe jadi gak sabar ;)

Jadi kemungkinan utk berhubungan dengan internet agak2 jauhan dulu makanya mo hiatus duu bentaaar aja. Kl kangen buzz aja di YM! santicuty atau email jg gak papa.

Truuuussss abis itu masuk kantor baru tgl 3 januari 2006. Hhhhhmmmmm new job in the new year, hopefully it's a good start in 2006! Amin

Soo....friends....Adios Amigos...See U...Tschüss...Bis Bald und Viel Erfolg!!!!

Wednesday, December 14, 2005

A Testimonial for Santi

Thursday, April 14, 2005:

dulu aku mencintainya karena kecantikannya.
Sekarang aku lebih mencintainya karena kecantikannya, kelembutan hatinya, perhatiannya, kasih sayangnya, kepeduliannya, keindahahan hatinya, keagungan pekertinya...........
tapi diatas semua itu
aku lebih mencintainya karena kemurnian imannya.

Love you for being woman with iman Islam.

-Molly-

Trauernachricht....

Gestern habe Ich einen Brief bekommen. Wendelin Anz ist gestorben. Er ist Stephanies Vater, Meine Au-Pair Mutter. Ich war ein Segen für viele, und ich werde gesegnet sein.


Er hat unser Leben heller gemacht, nun hat sich sein Lebenkreis geschlossen.

Wendelin Antz


*26. Oktober 1924 + 03. Dezember 2005


Herzliches Beileid,
Santi_Molly_Rakhel

Wednesday, December 07, 2005

Santi a.k.a Susan

Berawal dari suatu pagi, pas buka-buka Friendster. Ada new messages disana.

Dari Mia, yang isinya.....

Hai santi....
eh aku punya pengakuan nih, kayaknya kita udah
jadi temen friendster lama tapi kok aku ngga inget
terus ya pastinya santi yang mana
hehehehe...maap ya...
Di SMA 1 ada Santi Mangoting temenku di 1.5 trus
ada Santi temen sekelas di Bio1. Tapi mereka
berdua bukan dari SMP 3 Malang....jadi aku
semakin bingung...hehehe maap ya ingatanku
buruk banget kalo soal temen2 lama...abis udah
hampir 10 tahun sih. Kamu dulu dikelas apa ya?
Aku di SMP 3 kelas 1A, 2E, 3A (kalo ngga salah
hehe..) di SMA 1 kelas 1.5 dan Bio1.
MIA


Gubrak!what??? rupanya biarpun udah ngeliat2 foto2ku sekarang yg aku pajang di Friendster dia tetep gak ingat siapakah santi yg dia pandangin foto cantiknya disitu.

Dia lupa seperti apa tampangku dulu pas jaman SMA huehehehehe, hhhhhhmmmmmmm......ngga nyadar juga dia kalo ternyata Aku si Upik abu jaman SMA yang dia kenal dulu telah menjadi Cinderella ;;) *wink*wink* boleh duonk memuji diri sendiri huehehehehehehe

Atau......it's been already 10 years gitchu lwoh sejak lulus SMA, jd wajar kalo emang lupa (soale aku jg suka lupa huehehehehhe)

Atau mungkyiiiiinnn.......alasannya karena dulu i have another Nick Name ;), yaituuu SUSAN! (My full name is Susanti Tri Handayani)


Sebenernya Mia tuh bukan org pertama yg tidak mengenaliku as Santi. Banyak yg bertanya2 kalo pas ketemu di YM or di Milis SMA. Santi ini yg mana yah? Kalo dijwb itu tuh yg anak bahasa, lulus 96. Masi jg ngga -Ngeh! Tapi kalo dijawab: itu tuh aku tuh santi a.k.a susan. Pasti pada nyamber oooooooooooo....bulet nyang itu toh!

Storynya berawal dari temen baik SMPku (Iin dan Hitra *dimana yah Hitra skrg?*) temen satu kelas pas jaman SMP meng"anugrahkan" diriku dgn panggilan kesayangan, Susan, gak tau deh kenapa mereka manggil aku Susan, apa mungkin biar gak pasaran dan bisa ngebedain dgn santi-santi yg lain? aku sih hooh aja dipanggil Susan, secara udah bosan jg dipanggil santi (bukannya gak mensyukuri panggilan pemberian ortu lwoh) tapi boleh duonk ada pembaruan hehehehehe biar gak bosen, toh aku mah membebaskan temen2ku memanggil aku apa aja, santi boleh susan juga noleh.

Naaah panggilan susan ini teruuuus lanjut sampe SMA. Gara2 Iin mempopulerkannya jg di SMA, ketularanlah temen deketku di SMA Hera dan Anna manggil aku jg Susan. Istilahnya nih, i'm more popular with the name Susan than Santi. Padahal kalo lagi kenalan ama orang aku tuh memperkenalkan diri dgn nama Santi lwoh tp teuteup aja kesana2nya they called me Susan! That's why I don't blame Mia or anyone from High/Junior School who doesn't recognize me as Santi.

Tapi deep in my heart, aku lebih comfort kalo memperkenalkan diri dgn nama Santi, bagiku Susan agak2 kebarat2an gitu lwoh dan agak2 sok artis banget huehehehhe padahal diriku kan wong jowo dan artis terkenal jg bukan, baru artis antar kampung huehehehehheeh

Ini yah aku pasang foto pas jaman SMA, biar pada gak bertanya2 lagi ini Santi yg mana yah?! :D

aku dibarisan atas (3 cewek) yg plg pinggir dan gak pake kacamata
atas ki-ka: Santi, Febri, Wiwik
tengah ki-ka: Meison, Claudia, Filiana, Ririn, Citra, Juli
bawah: Eko
nyang ambil Fotona: Trias

Oh yah...ada yg tau gak kabarnya Febri, Wiwik, Claudia, Filiana, Ririn dan Eko
I totally lost contact with them!

Thursday, December 01, 2005

Tips for a Better Husband and Wife Relationship


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Although many Muslims may right now be in failing marriages and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many ways to put their marriage back on the right track if the husband and wife are sincere in their desire to reconcile. The following principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in trouble or by Muslims who would like to avoid trouble in their marriage.
Examples of Negative Relationship of Husband & Wife

Many Muslim husbands and wives treat each other like adversaries rather than partners. The husband feels that he is the boss, and whatever he says goes. The wife feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and families enjoy. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in the family.

Marriage In The Eyes of Allah

It is very sad that this relationship which Allah (SWT) has established for the good has been made a source of contention, deception, trickery, tyranny, humiliation, and abuse. This is not the way marriage is supposed to be.

Allah (SWT) described marriage very differently in the Holy Quran: '. . . He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . " (Holy Quran 30:21, Yusuf Ali Translation).

Do not be a Tyrant

Regardless of whether or not Islam has made the husband the head of the household, Muslims are not supposed to be dictators and tyrants. We are taught to treat our wives well. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives" (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278(R) Transmitted by Tirmidhi).

Be Partners in the Decision Making Process.

Follow the principle of 'Shura," and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them.

Never be Emotionally

Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. The Prophet (SAWS) never mistreated his wives. He is reported to have said: 'How could they beat their women in daytime as slaves and then sleep with them in the night?"
Be Careful of Your Words
Be very careful what you say when you are upset. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation.

Show Affection

Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving.

Be Your Spouse's Friend

Show interest in your mate's life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each other's lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project. They could perhaps establish a husband/wife prison ministry, take care of orphans in their home, or lead an Islamic weekend class.

Show Appreciation
Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband." (where is this hadith found) Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don't take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated.

Work Together in the House

The Prophet (SAWS) is known to have helped his wives in the house. And if the Prophet (SAWS) was not above doing housework, modern Muslim husbands shouldn't feel that they are.
Communication is Important

Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.

Forget Past Problems

Don't bring up past problems once they have been solved.

Live Simply

Don't be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. The 'rizq" is from Allah (SWT). In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Thank Allah (SWT) for the many blessings in your life.
Give Your Spouse Time Alone
If your mate doesn't want to be with you all the time, it doesn't mean he or she doesn't love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don't make them feel that they are committing a sin.

Admit Your Mistakes

When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other.
Physical Relationship is Important

Be available to your mate sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'It is not appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must send a message of love beforehand."

Have Meals Together

Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts. The Prophet (SAWS) did not complain about food that was put before him.

Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics

Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn't like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate's physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse.

Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies. Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times --- when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. Wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them.

Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner.
By Ibrahim Bowers

Madrasah Cinta

*Dedicated to All Mothers in the world*


Apa yang paling dinanti seorang perempuan yang baru saja menikah? Sudah pasti jawabannya adalah kehamilan. Seberapa jauh pun jalan yang harus ditempuh, seberat apa pun langkah yang mesti diayun, seberapa lama pun waktu yang kan dijalani, tak kenal menyerah demi mendapatkan satu kepastian dari seorang bidan; "positif".

Meski berat, tak ada yang membuatnya mampu bertahan hidup kecuali benih dalam kandungannya. Menangis, tertawa, sedih dan bahagia tak berbeda baginya, karena ia lebih mementingkan apa yang dirasa si kecil di perutnya. Seringkali ia bertanya; menangiskah ia? Tertawakah ia? Sedih atau bahagiakah ia di dalam sana? Bahkan ketika waktunya tiba, tak ada yang mampu menandingi cinta yang pernah diberikannya, ketika mati pun akan dipertaruhkannya asalkan generasi penerusnya itu bisa terlahir ke dunia. Rasa sakit pun sirna sekejap mendengar tangisan pertama si buah hati, tak peduli darah dan keringat yang terus bercucuran. Detik itu, sebuah episode cinta baru saja berputar.

Tak ada yang lebih membanggakan untuk diperbincangkan selain anak-anak. Tak satu pun tema yang paling menarik untuk didiskusikan bersama rekan sekerja, teman sejawat, kerabat maupun keluarga, kecuali anak-anak. Si kecil baru saja berucap "Ma…" segera ia mengangkat telepon untuk mengabarkan ke semua yang ada di daftar telepon. Saat baru pertama berdiri, ia pun berteriak histeris, antara haru, bangga dan sedikit takut si kecil terjatuh dan luka. Hari pertama sekolah adalah saat pertama kali matanya menyaksikan langkah awal kesuksesannya. Meskipun disaat yang sama, pikirannya terus menerawang dan bibirnya tak lepas berdoa, berharap sang suami tak terhenti rezekinya. Agar langkah kaki kecil itu pun tak terhenti di tengah jalan.

"Demi anak", "Untuk anak", menjadi alasan utama ketika ia berada di pasar berbelanja keperluan si kecil. Saat ia berada di pesta seorang kerabat atau keluarga dan membungkus beberapa potong makanan dalam tissue. Ia selalu mengingat anaknya dalam setiap suapan nasinya, setiap gigitan kuenya, setiap kali hendak berbelanja baju untuknya. Tak jarang, ia urung membeli baju untuknya dan berganti mengambil baju untuk anak. Padahal, baru kemarin sore ia membeli baju si kecil. Meskipun terkadang ia harus berhutang. Lagi-lagi atas satu alasan, demi anak.

Di saat pusing pikirannya mengatur keuangan yang serba terbatas, periksalah catatannya. Di kertas kecil itu tertulis: 1. Uang sekolah anak, 2. Beli susu anak, … nomor urut selanjutnya baru kebutuhan yang lain. Tapi jelas di situ, kebutuhan anak senantiasa menjadi prioritasnya. Bahkan, tak ada beras di rumah pun tak mengapa, asalkan susu si kecil tetap terbeli. Takkan dibiarkan si kecil menangis, apa pun akan dilakukan agar senyum dan tawa riangnya tetap terdengar.

Ia menjadi guru yang tak pernah digaji, menjadi pembantu yang tak pernah dibayar, menjadi pelayan yang sering terlupa dihargai, dan menjadi baby sitter yang paling setia. Sesekali ia menjelma menjadi puteri salju yang bernyanyi merdu menunggu suntingan sang pangeran. Keesokannya ia rela menjadi kuda yang meringkik, berlari mengejar dan menghalau musuh agar tak mengganggu. Atau ketika ia dengan lihainya menjadi seekor kelinci yang melompat-lompat mengelilingi kebun, mencari wortel untuk makan sehari-hari. Hanya tawa dan jerit lucu yang ingin didengarnya dari kisah-kisah yang tak pernah absen didongengkannya. Kantuk dan lelah tak lagi dihiraukan, walau harus menyamarkan suara menguapnya dengan auman harimau. Atau berpura-pura si nenek sihir terjatuh dan mati sekadar untuk bisa memejamkan mata barang sedetik. Namun, si kecil belum juga terpejam dan memintanya menceritakan dongeng ke sekian. Dalam kantuknya, ia terus pun mendongeng.

Tak ada yang dilakukannya di setiap pagi sebelum menyiapkan sarapan anak-anak yang akan berangkat ke kampus. Tak satu pun yang paling ditunggu kepulangannya selain suami dan anak-anak tercinta. Serta merta kalimat, "sudah makan belum?" tak lupa terlontar saat baru saja memasuki rumah. Tak peduli meski si kecil yang dulu kerap ia timang dalam dekapannya itu sudah menjadi orang dewasa yang bisa membeli makan siangnya sendiri di kampus.

Hari ketika si anak yang telah dewasa itu mampu mengambil keputusan terpenting dalam hidupnya, untuk menentukan jalan hidup bersama pasangannya, siapa yang paling menangis? Siapa yang lebih dulu menitikkan air mata? Lihatlah sudut matanya, telah menjadi samudera airmata dalam sekejap. Langkah beratnya ikhlas mengantar buah hatinya ke kursi pelaminan. ia menangis melihat anaknya tersenyum bahagia dibalut gaun pengantin. Di saat itu, ia pun sadar buah hati yang bertahun-tahun menjadi kubangan curahan cintanya itu tak lagi hanya miliknya. Ada satu hati lagi yang tertambat, yang dalam harapnya ia berlirih, "Masihkah kau anakku?"

Saat senja tiba. Ketika keriput di tangan dan wajah mulai berbicara tentang usianya. Ia pun sadar, bahwa sebentar lagi masanya kan berakhir. Hanya satu pinta yang sering terucap dari bibirnya, "Bila ibu meninggal, ibu ingin anak-anak ibu yang memandikan. Ibu ingin dimandikan sambil dipangku kalian". Tak hanya itu, imam shalat jenazah pun ia meminta dari salah satu anaknya. "Agar tak percuma ibu mendidik kalian menjadi anak yang shalih sejak kecil," ujarnya.

Duh ibu, semoga saya bisa menjawab pintamu itu kelak. Bagaimana mungkin saya tak ingin memenuhi pinta itu? Sejak saya kecil ibu telah mengajarkan arti cinta sebenarnya. Ibulah madrasah cinta saya, sekolah yang hanya punya satu mata pelajaran: cinta. Sekolah yang hanya punya satu guru: pecinta. Sekolah yang semua murid-muridnya diberi satu nama: yang dicinta.

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